+D Harmony

  • Assoc. Pastor Keith T. Jones
  • Jun 29, 2010

The other day, a news report regarding the rise of the nation’s divorce rate caught my attention. The report concluded the increased rate was related to our economic decline. A few days later, on my 13th wedding anniversary, I was brainstorming for an article topic and recalled the news report.

Every marriage faces hardships. Some couples not only weather them but also emerge stronger and more united than before. Others struggle, and some marriages are even destroyed. What makes the difference? Below are six biblical ways to help during tough times. 

1.  Lean on each other. (Galatians 6:2)

We should be able to share fears and hopes without being criticized or judged. Be there for each other to talk things out. Reach out to each other with an open ear and a shoulder to lean on.

2.  Keep perspective. (2 Timothy 1:7)

Ask yourself, “What is the worst thing that could actually happen?” By distinguishing fears from facts, you may realize the situation isn’t as bad as you thought.

3.  Get connected. (Ephesians 5:22 -6:4)

God tells us a marriage without instruction and encouragement of a spirit-filled church won’t thrive. Make it a priority to get connected with a community of believers. 

4.  Accentuate the positive. (Philippians 4:8-9)

77% of internal self-talk is negative. In a marriage, negative thought can short-circuit your attitudes toward your mate and cause you to disconnect. The focus of our thoughts determines our attitudes and feelings. Set your mind on a positive track.

5.  Relax and enjoy. (Mark 6:31)

Jesus told the disciples, “Come away by yourselves to a secluded place and rest a while.” Jesus himself often went to the mountains or desert for relaxation.  Be with your mate, away from stress, by going for a walk or some other activity together.

6.  Show affection. (Ephesians 4:32)

Say “I love you” and say it often. Put an appreciative note in their bag (My wife’s specialty.) Acknowledge a rough day by doing their chores. Small gestures go a long way.

Life is hard, and your marriage is not exempt. When the storms arrive, they will stress your marriage. Win the battle before it begins by strengthening your commitment, continuing to build your relationship, and growing in your faith. 

Bottom line: You can survive storms – and even be strengthened in the process.